In this episode of the Where Parents Talk podcast, host Lianne Castelino speaks with Doug Bolton, a clinical psychologist, educator, and author, about the evolving complexities of parenting in today’s world.
Bolton, a father of three, discusses the sharp rise in youth anxiety and stress, and how even the most well-meaning parental behaviours can unintentionally contribute to these issues. He emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, the power of community, and the need to prioritize connection over competition in family dynamics.
The conversation also explores how digital culture, device use, and social media are reshaping relationships and challenging traditional understandings of consent among youth.
Bolton offers insights to help parents navigate the balance between guidance and independence, discipline and communication—supporting the emotional and mental well-being of the next generation.
Key takeaways:
The mental health crisis is rooted in disconnection
Belonging and emotional safety are foundational to learning
Achievement pressure is a deeply ingrained societal norm
Chronic stress without recovery causes long-term harm
Rest, rhythm, and downtime must be intentionally protected
Motivation is driven by connection, not control
Parents must be the emotional anchor
Belonging is a core human need, not a luxury
DOUG BOLTON
Clinical Psychologist
Educator
past-Principal, public therapeutic school
Director of School Education, Formative Psychological Services
Author
Father of 3
“We were meant to be in community. That’s how we’ve always survived as a species. We would never have survived if we weren’t in community.”